Unless you’re a regular on the charity event scene, you probably haven’t shopped for a dress this important since your own nuptials. Before you hit the stores, check out our tips for finding a look that’s worthy of a wedding VIP.
Whether you're the caretaker of the bride or the caretaker of the lick, you'll have many special moments on the special day. All eyes will be upon you as you join the ceremony and when you're announced at the reception. And why not consider all those pictures? You may not have shopped for cheap mother of the bride dresses this important since your own wedding, so here are some tips to get you going.
1. Consult the Couple
The best place to start is by going straight to the source—the to-be-weds. Encourage them hint you in to their special day vision—how formal it's going to be, the overall style they're going for, and what color palette they've selected or are considering. Since pictures are always better than words, you can also ask them to share some photos they've pinned to their inspiration board so you have a visual guide to help get your search started in the right direction.
2. Start Early
We recommend starting your search around the six-month mark. That will give you the required time before the special day to find something you cherish, schedule accessories and have any alterations made if necessary. Plus, by then the couple will likely have chosen (or be very close to choosing) their own attire as well as the marriage party's look—it's best to wait so that the couple has made those decisions before you technically purchase anything so you can synchronize accordingly.
3. Consider Their Colors
Some brides prefer that their moms wear a color in the same palette as the marriage ceremony (say a mauve or V Neck Knee Length Purple Lace Mother Of The Bride Dress if the bridesmaids are in lilac or lavender) or even match it exactly, but there's no set rule that all the dresses must synchronize. The key thing to remember is that you want to complement (and not clash with) the day's shade. Metallics, navy, blush, chocolate brown and jewel tones are all beautiful and safe proposition wagers for a mother of the bride or lick. Traditionally, avoiding dresses in white, ivory or champagne bottle (that are too on the bride's gown), black (which can suggest feelings of loss) and red (or similarly “flashy" shades) is the standard—though these traditions are shifting and we've seen moms look chic and tasteful in all of the above. If you're considering something in one of these categories or you're just not sure about the color you're leaning toward, run it by the to-be-weds to double-check there aren't any concerns.
4. Choose Your style Carefully
You don't want to upstage the couple of honor, but that doesn't mean you're limited to frumpy, conservative or matronly looks either. There are plenty of options available that will give you that attractive look you're after without being over-the-top or stepping on an indivdual's toes. Depending on the ritual of the wedding, anything from a classic suit or a chic sheath to a mixture dress or formal gown can work. If the bride would like you to wear a mode you're not happy wearing or you like something she's not thrilled about, talk together and do your best to find a compromise that works for both of you—it's her day, but it's just as special for you and you have to really feel with your choice.
5. Think about the Logistics
Just as with the bride's gown, logistics such as the period, the setting, and the season of the event will influence the appropriate attire for you. For example, you can get away with putting on a costume a notch, but donning a sequined ball gown for a champagne bottle brunch will make you feel out of place. Or whether or not it's a rustic affair on a vineyard, you'll want to forgo a long, voluminous gown that skims the dirt paths and dewy sod. A number of things to remember when putting together your wedding wear: Faith based and cultural customs may influence a certain dress code for the ceremony or reception too, so be prepared to face mask if required (a jacket, cardigan or chic shawl should do just fine).
6. Synchronize With your Future In-Law
It's a bit old-fashioned, but traditionally, the mother-of-the-bride selections her outfit first, setting the tone for what the mother-of-the-groom will wear. Nowadays though, who buys first doesn't really matter as much, as long as both women are comfortable and feel great in what they decide to wear. You and your future in-law don't need to match, but a few your looks don't clash. Have a conversation to get a sense of what the other plans on wearing (talk about sleeve and hem length, neckline, color and style). If you go along well you may even want to go shopping together to offer each other style advice and make sure you find looks that synchronize nicely, or alternatively the bride could go shopping with each of you separately and pass on any guidelines. If you discover the two of you want to wear the same color, choose different shades of the shade for an easy compromise.
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